The following video is, in my opinion, an expression of universal patterns of male and female behaviour--broadly speaking, that is, not necessarily for specific individuals and on every parameter, but for the genders as a whole. Even where there is role reversal in an individual interaction between men and women or between individuals with different perceptual, cognitive, linguistic, or social styles, it can be helpful to understand these as stylistic differences, rather than deliberate attempts to be obtuse, annoying, rude, etc. It can also help cross-culturally to the extent that some cultures seem to operate in one modality, whereas others operate in a different one, and no offense, annoyance or more sinister goal is intended.
The paradigms underpinning some of these vignettes (language, communication, processing functions) have been shown in some instances to be a result of gender differences in brain structure as much or more than culture and socialization. In other words, "they" can't help it. One can learn to modify behaviours and responses, but there is a natural tendency--that will be stronger under stress--to behave according to the "hard wiring". When people are in a stressful situation, and in full opposite wiring mode, there can be undue friction. So watch the video, relax, enjoy, have a laugh--and memorize!
If you have trouble viewing the video, it is linked here. Or search the title "FEMMINILE E MASCHILE" and look for the one with the purple maze. Or, well, you know what to do. [*see video below]
I can tell he is a boy video because he wants to line up on the left all regular-like, and not move to the centre where I want him to go. He doesn't say anything. He just stays there, or only puts the top part of himself in the centre, and leaves the bottom part of himself on the left. He wants to mess with my aesthetics. He knows I can't tolerate him being off kilter, so I will move the top part back to match the aesthetics of the bottom. He has a jumbled HTML that punishes me by not saving if I try to "persuade" him to go to the centre. Oh, no abuse or anything, just a little "my way or the highway" with a touch of silent treatment.
I am not amused, but I am trying to show girlie compassion for his recalcitrance--because I am X chromosome that way, especially now that we are in a standoff and stressed! Notice how I elaborated and shared? Yeah, X chromosomes alright--2 of them! No I am not !!!exclaiming!!! too much. Now, I'm going to call a girl friend, so she and I can discuss this properly. He'll never be the wiser. No point. He is hard-wired that way, and I like him too much to just poof him.
Oh no!!! He got really angry and poofed me right out of Blogger!!! :(
Ah, wasn't that sweet, he made me a whole new Blogger platform when he finally let me back in to see the surprise! :)
And he remembered I have been wanting more functions for commenting moderation and its own separate tab! :)
So...so...so... Y-chromosome! :D
Oh, and today, a new gift, the video accessible to all, and willing to move to the centre, with a note about himself. Aahhhh...<3 <3 <3
Female and Male (2004) by award-winning Italian animator Bruno Bozzetto,
How true are the scenarios in your experience?
For how many scenarios do you conform to the gender-appropriate pattern?
Which ones and how? Or not?
Any anecdotes, examples to share? (<--very girl question :P )
Tell us what's what! (<--very boy non-question :P )
Any other comments, thoughts, impressions, experiences?