Sunday, June 17, 2012

Happy Father's Day 2012!

Father's Day may have had its origin in marketing, or in religious observance (See Father's Day June 2010: Some Cross-Cultural and Personal Observations), but it remains a joyous opportunity to celebrate the men in one's life who are fathers or father figures, grandfathers, uncles, brothers, cousins, special friends.

For me, this is the 3rd Father's Day since my father died on February 19, 2010. The emotional impact of  this loss on Father's Day is still present, though the sadness is less, or at least more manageable. That is partly through the healing effects of time, and partly through the experience of grieving and lessons learned.

Everyone copes with their losses in their own way. For me, it is better to find ways to mark this day, mindful of my father, than it would be to just ignore it, as some do, which is the best way for them to deal with their grief. It is also a reminder that my father would appreciate the gesture while not wanting any fuss, and certainly nothing maudlin or melancholic! And so I will celebrate with flowers, a card, and attending a religious service as ways of connecting with my father and feeling that I have recognized him on this special day...

Blogging on this day is another way of marking its specialness for all, and for me and my father. So, while I apologize for my long, though unintended, silence (minor medical misadventures of the most mischievous and maddening mold),  I am happy to post today, and hopefully more regularly (Insha'Allah).

To all fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers, cousins, special friends and paternal figures,
Happy Father's Day! 

 Related Posts:
Father's Day June 2010: Some Cross-Cultural and Personal Observations
Happy Father's Day 2011!

Please share your thoughts, feelings, experiences, and comments on this day.


Susanne said...

I've missed you and thought of you often. I'm happy to see this post today as you remember your sweet dad.

Chiara said...

Thank you Susanne. I have missed you too. You are always so thoughtful about my Dad.

I have also missed blogging regularly and all the regular commentators as well as the possibility of new ones.

Hopefully things will be more on track soon.

Thanks again!

Addo said...

Good to see a post again. Was getting worried about you. Glad to have you back :)

Majed said...

First of All I can`t say how happy I am to see you back,and, whatever medical problem u had, I pray is gone with no return, Ameen.

At times I cant read ur posts,and at most others for one reason or other I can not comment,but I always check whether you did post something or no,Chez Chiara has grown on me like an addiction.

I am man my connection is much stronger to my mother than father,she is like my friend I can think of being in this world without her,while, I can hardly talk to my father face to face though he is very sweet man, I even avoid sitting with him in the same space,exactly the opposite to my sisters who sit so close to him, at times I think they would sit on his lap they give him massage they kiss him comb his hair, and treat who is a lion to me as if he is Mr universe or the cutest baby in the world,so I think I can imagine how much you must be missing your father,may God bless his soul,we eventually all drink from the same cup, now as I crossed my forty year, I am trying to make up for all that time I wasted I hope I could.

Wendy said...

Welcome back, Chiara!

I also very much miss my father who was always loving and lots of fun! He died in 1985 but I still have a big hole in my heart for him.

jaraad said...

Hi Chiara!
While reading Susanne's new post today I saw on her blogroll that you have a new post. And here I am :)
Do whatever you feel will connect and remind you of your father.
Wish you all the best!


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